How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie - Summary & Notes

This book is probably one of the most universal self-help books I've read so far. No matter if you are a business man, a house wife or a sixth grader, worry can creep up anywhere. Worry can be like poison. Dale Carnegie shows you in "How to stop worrying and start living" exactly what to do to live the happy life you always wanted. Below you can find my notes organized by chapter.

How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie


Fundamental facts you should know about worrying

Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.

-- Sir William Osier

Take therefore no thought for the morrow; for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.

-- Jesus

Everyday is a new life to a wise man.

Happy the man, and happy he alone, He, who can call today his own: He who, secure within, can say: "Tomorrow, do thy worst, for I have lived today."

-- Horace

This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.

-- Psalm CXVIII

The Lord may forgive us our sins but the nervous system never does.

-- William James

Basic techniques in analyzing worry

Everything that is in agreement with our personal desires seems true. Everything that is not puts us into a rage.

-- Andre Maurois

How to break the worry habit before it breaks you

It is astonishing how quickly we can accept almost any situation if we have to and adjust ourselves to it and forget about it.

It is not miserable to be blind, it is only miserable not to be able to endure blindness.

-- John Milton

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.

-- Dr. Reinhold Niebuhr

I conceive that a great part of the miseries of mankind are brought upon them by the false estimates they have made of the value of things, and by their giving too much for their whistles (is a reference to a story about Benjamin Franklin).

Seven ways to cultivate a mental attitude that will bring you peace and happiness

You are not what you think you are; but what you think, you are.

-- Norman Vincent Pale

Our life is what our thoughts make it. -- Marcus Aurelius

...being licked is all part of the game, the useful training you had to expect if you want to get to the top.

The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of Hell, a hell of Heaven.

-- John Milton

A man is not hurt so much by what happens, as by his opinion of what happens.

-- Michel de Montaigne

A man will find that as he alters his thoughts towards things and other people, things and other people will alter towards him. Let a man radically alter his thoughts, and he will be astonished at the rapid transformation it will effect in the material conditions of his life. Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are. The divinity that shapes our ends is in ourselves. It is our very self. All that a man achieves is the direct result of his own thoughts. A man can only rise, conquer and achieve by lifting up his thoughts. He can only remain weak and abject and miserable by refusing to lift up his thoughts.

-- As a man thinketh (emphasize added by me)

To be wronged or robbed is nothing unless you continue to remember it.

-- Confucius

To know all is to understand all, and this leaves no room for judgement and condemnation.

-- Clarence Darrow

I am going to meet people today who talk too much, people who are selfish, egotistical, and ungrateful. But I won't be surprised or disturbed, for I couldn't imagine a world without such people.

-- Marcus Aurelius

The ideal man takes joy in doing favors for others; but he feels ashamed to have others do favors for him. For it is a mark of superiority to confer a kindness; but it is a mark of inferiority to receive it.

-- Aristotle

There are two things to aim at in life: first, to get what you want; and, after that, to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind achieve the second.

-- Logan Pearsall Smith (emphasize added by me)

Read: I wanted to see by Borghild Dahl

Nobody is so miserable as he who longs to be somebody and something other than the person he is in body and mind.

-- Angelo Patri

Read: You and Heredity by Amran Scheinfeld

There is a time in every man's education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given him to till. The power which resides in him is new in nature, and none but he knows what that is which he can do, nor does he know until he has tried.

-- Ralph Waldo Emerson in Self-reliance

Our infirmities help us unexpectedly.

-- William James

If I had not been so great an invalid, I should not have done so much work as I have accomplished.

-- Charles Darwin

The north wind made the Vikings.

-- Scandinavian saying quoted by Harry Emerson Fosdick

The most important thing in life is not to capitalize on your gains. Any fool can do that. The really important thing is to profit from your losses. That requires intelligence; and it makes the difference between a man of sense and a fool.

-- William Bolitho

Read: What life should mean to you by Dr. Alfred Adler

The golden rule for conquering worry

The sovereign cure for worry is religious faith.

-- William James

Man is not made to understand life, but to life it.

-- Santayana

During the past thirty years, people from all the civilized countries of the earth have consulted me. I have treated many hundreds of patients. Among all my patients in the second half of life, that is to say, over thirty-five, there has not been one whose problem in the last resort was not that of finding a religious outlook on life. It is safe to say that every one of them fell ill because he had lost that which the living religions of every age have given to their followers, and none of them has been really healed who did not regain his religious outlook.

-- Dr. Carl Jung (Modern Man in Search of a Soul)

The turbulent billows of the fretful surface leave the deep parts of the ocean undisturbed; and to him who has a hold on vaster and more permanent realities, the hourly vicissitudes of his personal destiny seem relatively insignificant things. The really religious person is accordingly unshakable and full of equanimity, and calmly ready for any duty that the day may bring forth.

-- William James

How to keep from worrying about criticism

Vulgar people take huge delight in the faults and follies of great men.

-- Arthur Schopenhauer

It is almost impossible not to believe what you want to believe.

Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized, anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't.

-- Eleanor Roosevelt

Six ways to prevent fatigue and worry and keep your energy and spirits high

Read: Why be tired by Daniel W. Josselyn

Read Principles of Scientific Management by Frederick Winslow Taylor.

The greater part of the fatigue from which we suffer is of mental origin; in fact exhaustion of physical origin is rare.

-- J.A. Hadfield (The psychology of power)

One hundred percent of the fatigue of the sedentary worker in good health is due to psychological factors, by which we mean emotional factors.

-- Dr. A.A. Brill

Read: Release from Nervous Tension by Dr. David Harold Fink.

Men do not die from overwork. They die from dissipation and worry.

-- Charles Evans Hughes (former Chief Justice of the USA Supreme Court)

Walking ten blocks with a nagging wife can be more fatiguing than walking ten miles with an adoring sweetheart.

How to find the kind of work in which you may be happy and successful

The greatest tragedy I know of is that so many young people never discover what they really want to do.

-- Edna Kerr (Dupont Company)

Where a man had no interest, where he felt he was misplaced, where he thought he was not appreciated, where he believed his talents were being misused, invariably we found a potential if not an actual psychiatric casualty.

-- Dr. William Menninger

How to lessen your financial worries

What causes most people to worry is not that they haven't enough money, but that they don't know how to spend the money they have.

-- Elsie Stapleton (financial adviser at Wanamaker's Department Store in NY)

If you have what seems to you insufficient then you will be miserable even if you possess the world.

-- Seneca

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